Something about losing wait is addressed in the following blog. Giving up something so that you can get what you really want. This applies to the depression that I have been having. And so, I am willing to give up anything, change my spiritual life, relationships, and job if I have to, to get what I want. To get out of the mire that is and was the monster of depression> Here is his blog on weight loss. But the principles that he states can apply to any goal.
Here are two age-old points of view:
- "You need to get what you want in order to be happy."
- "You need to get over what you want in order to be happy."
The tricky part comes in how we define the word "happy."
For example, a man who smokes might feel "happy" when he is able to smoke to satisfy a craving.
On the other hand, that same man might feel "happy" that he's been able to quit and that he hasn't had a cigarette in over a year.
We used the word "happy" to describe two different feelings that really aren't the same thing. In the first instance, the man was doing what he "wanted," and in the second, he was doing what he "should."
We are constantly surrounded today by messages that tell us we should focus on getting and doing what we want, but it is perfectly fine for us to focus instead on doing what we should.
Let me give you a tiny example. Every night, instead of asking "What do you want for dinner?", we could ask ourselves "What should we have for dinner?" If we ask what we want we might end up with pizza and donuts and if we ask what we should then we might end up with a salad, some protein, no sweets, and no refined carbohydrates.
I believe a major obstacle for many people trying to lose weight is that they are trapped by the notion that they need to get what they want in order to be happy. Losing weight would make them happy, and having a delicious dinner and dessert would make them happy, so they're stuck. As long as they're focused on being happy it's going to be a constant struggle. But if they can get over the notion of being happy and focus on doing what they should, there is much less conflict or dilemma. Then, they can say, "I should lose weight. I'm going to lose 24 pounds in 6 weeks so I will need to lose 4 pounds a week and I will keep a chart to make sure I keep on track and I will do what it takes to make it so."
You may not think that the music you listen to, or the books you read, or the movies you watch can have much to do with your ability to do what you should and reach your goals; but they can. Avoid music, books, news, internet, and movies that are all about people needing to get what they want in order to be happy. Getting constantly bombarded with that message will not help you do what you should.
Parents often try to teach their children to do what they should. Naturally, as they grow older, some children rebel saying, "I'm tired of doing what I should, from now on I'm going to do what I want." That's the kind of rebellious thinking to resist and dismiss (instantly).
If you have a low body temperature or other problems that make it difficult for you to lose weight, focusing on getting over what you want can't hurt anything and may even help you.
if you want to lose weight I recommend that you focus on doing what you should. There's no disgrace in it and there's no downside. It's totally fine to suffer a few things for a time. It's totally fine to let cravings go unfulfilled. We don't need to do what we want in order to be happy. We can find freedom, peace, health, and success in cheerfully doing what we should.
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